urSkek ([info]urskek) wrote,
@ 2004-04-25 16:59:00
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I'm in Louisiana. My papaw (mom's father) died last week. I haven't been home in seven years. He never even met my children. I'm having a hard time with that. My dad (who lives here, too) sent his wife, Terry, to pick me and the kids up from Houston so I could go to the funeral. We're on day 5 of a 7-day stay.

There's so much to write about that I will need to break it down into bits and pieces. For now, the thing that is consuming my mind is how people here are so different than they are anywhere else in this US, even the rest of the south. Louisiana is like a different country, the culture is so distinctive. This is truly part of the Bible Belt, too. All but two of the radio stations here are Christian-oriented, and most of the billboards have something to do with church. My dad is the pastor for a nondenominational church called The Church. We went to the service this morning. I let me kids go to children's church and do the craft. I listened to my dad do his preacher thing. I feel proud of him, even though it's not my thing. He's a happy man. Much of his congregation are bikers, and his co-pastor and his wife have nine children, all of them homebirthed, breastfed, slept with, from age 22 down to 2. She hugged me really hard when I first met her the other day and talked about how she'd never met anybody else who did things the way she did them, people always telling her she's crazy. That was so cool, to meet someone like her here.

I've seen five out of my eight brothers and sisters since I've been here, and aunts, uncles, cousins I haven't seen in years. They all have done nothing but fawn over my children and love them (sometimes traumatizing them with overbearing hugs and kisses, but loving them nonetheless). Amazingly, no one has given us the first bit of shit for the vegan thing or the nursing thing. These people love me so much, and I think I had forgotten that. It feels good to be home, but I cannot wait to be back in my own space, my own bed, going by own schedule.

I'm not in the right head space to write about my papaw yet.


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[info]coldbeansoup
2004-04-25 03:30 pm UTC (link)
I'm so sorry about your loss.
what a trip for you to be back...
of course I selfishly want you to come on over here and let us throw you a party, babysit your kids, whatever you need.

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[info]mackysmama
2004-04-25 04:47 pm UTC (link)
Oh Mandy. I am so sorry about your Papaw. I am glad to hear that things are going so well for you there. That is very cool about your step-mother and meeting all of your brothers and sisters. It's very cool that she parents with similiar values and way cool that you have a sibling the same age as S. I look forward to hearing all the stories. We miss you so much and our anxious for your return.

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oh mama...
[info]starkl
2004-04-25 04:50 pm UTC (link)
...i'm so sorry about your grandfather. It must be a comfort to be around so many people that love you at a time like that. Love you much, will be keeping you in my thoughts..

~lorraine

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[info]deserious
2004-04-25 05:00 pm UTC (link)
I'm guessing you are out west, but its nice to know you're inside the state lines. sorry about your paw paw. I hope the familial love helps you and your loved ones get through this.

been missing you.

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[info]urskek
2004-04-26 01:26 am UTC (link)
Oh, mama, I'm way up here in the northeast corner, in Monroe. One of the days I'll get down there to see you and C, and now with Jen moving down there...soon. Soon! Thanks for the love.

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[info]zaftigvegan
2004-04-25 05:51 pm UTC (link)
aw, mama. just a few days ago i was wondering about you, it'd been so long since i'd seen a post from you. i'm sorry that the occassion of your posting stems from something so sad for you and your family. you're in my thoughts, pretty lady.

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[info]venalanatomica
2004-04-25 10:15 pm UTC (link)
I'm sorry, mama.

I love and miss you very much!

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hidethisjournal
2004-04-25 10:32 pm UTC (link)
I woke up thinking about you and the kids this morning, wondering when you were going to post again.

I'm sorry about your pawpaw, but glad that the reunion has been pleasant.

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[info]madera
2004-04-25 11:01 pm UTC (link)
I love you mama.
Ive been thinking about you and your grandpa.
Are you coming home on Tues?
xoxo
~A

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[info]urskek
2004-04-26 01:33 am UTC (link)
Yeah, we'll be heading home tomorrow. I am so looking forward to it. Angela, Noble is having SUCH a hard time. He has this toothache from a cavity, we've gone through a whole bottle of baby aspirin and a tube of orajel since we got here, he's in so much pain. I'm going to take him to get it filled as soon as we get back. And the poor little guy, you know how shy and hypersensitive he is. He's had to hear so much about how "good" Timely is from everyone. No one is saying he's bad, but he's just not getting the same kind of love and attention she is, or when they try to give it to him, he hides in the corner and falls APART if they touch him. I know he will be happier than any of us to get home, my poor sweet boy. It just tears me up.

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[info]madera
2004-04-26 06:10 pm UTC (link)
Oh girl, I'm so sorry. I'm sorry for poor little Noble too. And you again because that has gotta be some hard stuff to deal with in front of family that you havent seen forever, the baby you have to nurse and sling,and Timely needing you too. It feels like you've been gone a lonnnnng time, or it feels like I havent seen you in too long. I know you cant wait to get home to your own home. At least if you had a car you could load the kids up and go for a drive when you got over stimulated. What time do you think you'll be getting in tomorrow? I'll stop by if it is early.
love love
~A

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[info]esimom
2004-04-26 04:54 am UTC (link)
I'm so sorry to hear about your papaw.

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[info]andreaq
2004-04-26 11:31 am UTC (link)
I'm sorry for your loss.

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[info]sparrow77
2004-04-26 09:40 pm UTC (link)
*hugs* I'm sorry mama.

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[info]mslilly
2004-04-27 07:41 pm UTC (link)
Aw, honey, I reckon you're home by now. Going home is often like that for me, finding myself in them and them in myself. Take care of you. I'll call you in the next day or so. *Love*

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[info]venalanatomica
2004-08-25 11:00 pm UTC (link)
I miss you.

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[info]urskek
2004-08-26 04:07 pm UTC (link)
:::beams::: I miss you, too, lovely.

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